Wanchain's Space

Q: Do you think damp clothes will dry faster in summer or winter? A: Most people think it is summer, because the temperature is higher.  However, it is winter because humidity is lower. The fact is not always what we expect it to be.  Similarly, in life, we sometimes have to look in the opposite direction, to find what we have been looking for.

I have a lot of self-doubt. Whenever I don't get a clear reply or if I don't believe in the answer I get from my spirit guides or helpers or angels, I would ask again, or ask another guide or angel.  Sometimes I will repeat the same questions on another day. Sometimes I apologize to them, saying, "I know I am driving you bonkers.  I am so sorry I have to ask you this a million times.  " One day, my spirit helper said, "It's okay.  If you have to ask a million times, we will answer you a million times, if that's what it takes to show you we love you."

A crumbling belief can be a very scary thing.  Imagine - the guy you have been dating for the last three years is geting married tomorrow, and you are not the bride; - the friend you share everything with has been scheming to scam you; - the religion that you have been faithfully following is actually a suicide cult; or - the company that you have been working for, which you think is a charitable organization, is just a front to launder illegal funds. Our happiness is tied to our beliefs. At one point in my life, I spent three or four weeks learning to construct and deconstruct belief systems.  Construct, deconstruct, construct, deconstruct. Every time when my belief collapsed, I rebuilt it.  When it didn't serve me anymore, or I had to change my experiences, then I deconstructed it. I had two conflicting belief systems.  It was like a computer with dual operating systems.  I switched between the belief systems, because I had to. Whenever my belie...

Today's visit to the herbalist taught me the following. Birth control pills We discussed a patient's case where she appeared like a he, but when the herbalist read her pulse, he discovered that this patient was a woman.  Her hormonal system was severely out of balance due to over-consumption of birth control pills. Sometimes she takes two, or more, pills a day, depending on the frequency of her sexual activity.  This has also caused her lethargy.  As soon as she sits down, she doesn't want to get up.  She cannot get up from bed in the morning. Different individuals display different symptoms. Even if there was no need for contraception on a certain day, the girl is still advised to take one pill, to make sure that the hormonal system doesn't go out of whack.  The user cannot take control of her body one day, and not take control the next day.  Hence, the consumption has to be regular, whether her activity is regular or not. The pill acts to kill...

There are many articles, books, blogs, videos, etc. about Jungian personality traits of introversion and extroversion.  Here's my summary: Introversion is a inward movement of energy (contractive). Extroversion is an outward movement of energy (projective). There are different reasons for the direction of flow.  However, I can only use myself as an example, as I could not find examples of Jungian personality traits being discussed as energy flows.  As much as I can understand myself (not enough), below are some possible reasons of the inward flow of personal energy: 1) Low energy level:  When I am tired, either lack of sleep, or body requires extra energy to rebuild, realign, recover, etc., then I pull in my energy. 2) Creative work:  When I write, I draw in a lot of energy, because otherwise I am a scatterbrain whose ideas don't flow logically or structurally.  Other individual activities such as reading also draw in a lot of energy, but it diffe...

Criticism can help us grow, but negative reinforcement can sometimes discourage us from growing.  When met with negativity, our natural tendency is to retract. We have a choice whether to view something as desirable or undesirable.  Our thoughts create our emotions.  If we view a lesson as positive, then we will learn happily.  Conversely, we will learn grumpily.  ^_^ When in a position to mentor or nurture someone, if we give our feedback in a positive way, we could encourage creativity, experimentation, and growth. Below are two scenarios, each with two or three responses for comparative purposes. A) Your child spilled milk on the table. 1) My brother and his wife would say, "Told you to be careful!  See what a mess you have made?  Stop fidgeting and sit still while you drink." 2) I would say, "Ops!"  Then I would help clean up the table. 3) A suggested response would be, "Oh, how pretty!  Look at all the white liquid running...

As I acquaint myself to the feeling of different vibrational frequencies, I was surprised to find that different shades of love have different feelings. As I observe the love I feel when interaction with different people/things, I get different feelings, but they are all feelings of love.  Below are two subsets of love energy: Masculine Strong, uplifting, and expansive, reminding me of Michaelangelo's energy.  Within this subset of masculine love energy, I feel that romantic love is stronger but more focused, whereas platonic love is intense because it is more dispersed.  It would be most ideal if I have a dyadic relationship that encompasses both the intense (romantic) and also the lovely warm (platonic) feeling.  ^_^ Feminine Gentle and comforting.  For example, the energy that my rose quartz (10g) gives me is universal love (not unconditional love), and it feels mild and pleasant.  The compassion that it teaches me is a feminine and soothing ene...